Yeppo, definitely Grandpa should ''make'' her move more. The thing (<== need to vary my vocabulary used this word 1000 x already) is, that if we got her to move around more by making her fetch things herself, she probably wouldn't fetch them. For instance say she wants a cup of tea. She'd ask some one to go and fetch it. If that person doesn't do it, either she asks again or forgets, but if one said: ''I have no time. Could you get it yourself?'', she wouldn't do it. If Grandpa didn't empty the dishwasher, she wouldn't do it either. The ''you can have that piece of cake after you emptied the dishwasher'' strategy wouldn't really work, because:

• a) She doesn't really want the piece of cake, it's just greed. If it weren't there she wouldn't miss it.
• b) She probably would ''forget'' to do it, or at least she wouldn't make a big effort to try and remember to do it.
  
• c) She cannot be bothered i.e. the ''reward'' at the end of her work is not worth it.

The only way of making her loose weight (mass) as mentioned before is to not buy the cake to start with or to not fetch it for her. Of course we could live there for several months and always keep going in the attic, look at the way she ''ran'' up there! When we go to England we could get her to walk around the garden with us or do the ''Weight Watchers'' diet for her making sure she doesn't eat over a certain amount of calories, yet allowing her to eat little treats. Problem: unless we can motivate Grandpa to do this when we're not there or we get that elusive ''person who could look after them a bit'' er... person who would do it, this plan would be rather useless, in fact very ubber super mega useless. As long as we do something with her. Ya know when you play ''Sevens'' you have to choose whether the Aces are one or higher than the King, right? Well she forgets, right? It's not dramatic, but it can make a big difference between winning and loosing, 'cause all the Aces have the same value, ya can't keep changing, saying once it's worth 1, next it's worth 14 the way it suits you. Unless you do it before the game. Oh, well that's life I suppose, but we should really try and talk to Grandpa more, with eight hours time difference for you, it isn't exactly easy, but I will tell you one thing in secret, he's kinda sad that you don't call often, of course the time difference screws things up majorly, still. I only have so much life-shattering news to tell him. Each time we talk to him he asks about Singapore. So got any life-changing news? Anybody? That's it really.